thoughts & learnings - aby

Habits often outweigh confidence. While confidence is a mindset, habits are actions. You can feel unsure but still succeed if your habits keep you consistent. Confidence can waver, but strong habits keep you going even on tough days. In the long run, good habits build confidence — not the other way around. It's better to have the discipline to do what matters than just believe you can. Habits make progress automatic; confidence follows. Develop habits towards meeting your goals - one step at a time.

Being NEUTRAL in situations involving injustice, harm or inequality, staying neutral is actually aligning with the oppressor. Silence and lack of action can be interpreted as consent.   Sometimes, not taking a stand is taking a stand and need not be good for the larger cause. Take your stand for what you feel is right, rather than shying away.

 Saying “yes” when you want to say “NO” often comes from a fear of disappointing others, conflict, or wanting to be liked. But over time, it can lead to stress, resentment, and burnout. Every time you say YES to something that doesn’t align with your needs or values, you're saying NO to yourself. Learning to say “NO” kindly but firmly is an act of self-respect. You don’t owe explanations—your peace is reason enough.  Start small, practice often. Your boundaries are valid.

Being good is trying to do your best in a consistent manner, while accepting your weaknesses and learning from your mistakes. It focuses on growth, effort, and creating an impact.   Being perfect is trying to meet unrealistic standards, thereby trying to avoid mistakes and seeking flawlessness. This can lead to stress and exhaustion.   While being good is sustainable and human, being perfect is often unattainable and leads to burnout.   In life and relationships, people value sincerity and progress more than perfection. It is better to be good and real than perfect and unreachable.

55 years is a long time.... lot of experiences that are lessons for future generations.. lot of thoughts that have taken forms... no uniform thread to bind them all...just random posts as and when they came to my mind... with the help of Chat GPT to give my thoughts proper shape... if it helps anyone who come to this accidentally, i will be more than happy... and in case you are the one who happens to read these posts, please leave your comments and also click on the like button...which surely will be a motivation for me,,, leaving it to the readers to evaluate and also practice whatever tips they feel is useful in their lives... God bless you all..